Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship
After a broken agreement, apology and reassurance may not settle the question. One partner wants to move forward. The other still needs to understand what happened and whether anything will be different.
Couples therapy does not promise reconciliation or decide that forgiveness is the right answer. It can offer a structured place to discuss accountability, the impact of what happened and whether both people want to work on the relationship.
Maybe this sounds familiar
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An apology has not answered your questions.
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You disagree about what accountability means.
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Reassurance does not feel convincing.
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You want help deciding what comes next.
01 · Understand
Get specific about what was broken
Trust can be affected by many kinds of agreements: honesty about money, contact with another person, follow-through or shared responsibilities. The relevant details belong in a private clinical conversation, not a website inquiry.
Your therapist can help you describe the agreement, its meaning and the effect on each person. That does not make the harm equal or require the hurt partner to accept an explanation as a repair. It gives the conversation a clearer starting point.
02 · Practice
Consider what change would look like
It can help to distinguish a promise from a pattern of follow-through. In sessions, partners can discuss what accountability means, what questions remain and which boundaries matter while deciding how to proceed.
There is no fixed timetable for trust. A therapist can help you examine the relationship and your choices without guaranteeing its outcome. If there is fear, coercion or ongoing danger, bring that up privately when discussing appropriate support.
03 · Choose Your Next Step
A practical fit conversation
Ongoing couples support is listed with Holly Whitmore, Emily Chen, Misty Goldenberg and Nicola Loretto. Their approaches differ, so you can ask how they work with your particular concern rather than choose by a method name alone.
A free 15 minute phone consultation can help clarify availability, session format and next steps. Describe the broad concern and any provider preference. Keep detailed personal or health information for the practice's approved clinical process.
A therapist who fits you
These clinicians offer the related service. Availability and the right approach for your situation are part of the consultation.
Holly Whitmore
MA, LMFT
Gottman couples therapy and IFS
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Emily Chen
AMFT
EFT, attachment and inner child work
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Misty Goldenberg
AMFT
EMDR, perinatal and couples work
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Nicola Loretto
MA, AMFT
Grief, identity and Gottman couples work
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Dina Abdelaal
AMFT
Trauma and PTSD, in English and Spanish
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Aidé Merito
AMFT, APCC
Teens, identity and trauma, in English and Spanish
View profileFees in brief
We are in network with Aetna (PPO and EPO plans only), Cigna, UnitedHealthcare, Optum and Blue Shield of California. Not every clinician is in network with every plan.
Seeing someone out of network? We provide superbills you can submit for reimbursement.
Rates and insuranceLicensed therapist
$180
per telehealth session
For adults, couples, children or families
Associate therapist
$150
per telehealth session
For adults, couples, children or families
Questions before you begin
Do we have to decide to stay together before reaching out?
You can begin with questions about fit and goals. Tell the practice if you are uncertain about the relationship so the consultation can address whether the available service is appropriate.
How do I ask about this service?
Tell the practice the broad kind of support you are seeking, your language preference and whether you have a clinician in mind. Fit, availability and any fee or insurance arrangement need to be confirmed before an appointment.
A small first step
Start with a free 15 minute phone consultation to discuss provider fit, availability and the next step. Keep personal and health details out of an ordinary website inquiry. Ongoing sessions are offered by video within California.
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Start with a free 15 minute phone consultation. We'll help you consider provider fit and next steps.